>> Monday, September 22, 2014
A while back, I made my girls spend some time going through their room and TRYING to declutter it at least a little. After the first cleaning session, Mack said she'd cleaned out the box with the dress-up clothes and put them in the "Donation" bag, but she'd put my wedding shoes with my wedding dress. She wasn't sure I'd want to get rid of them.
|Trying it on for the|
It takes up a fair bit of space in my cramped little storage area at the top of the loft stairs. It was never professionally cleaned after I wore it and so it isn't really in any condition for someone else to want to wear. Not to mention the fact that it's 18 years old.
Two of my cousins have participated in "Trash the Dress" photo shoots, where they don their wedding dresses and spend an afternoon with a professional photographer and a few other ladies in their wedding dresses at various locations, including at the beach and in the water. I've always thought that looked like a fun idea, but let's face it, that's never gonna happen. Even if I'd ever actually reach my goal weight (the chances of which are slim to none, given my lack of self-discipline), I'd still be 15 pounds heavier than I was the day I got married. And it fit pretty snugly then already! So that's out.
Keeping it for either of my girls to wear down the aisle someday didn't really make sense either. I realize that it's considerably trendier to use thrift store clothing for special occasions these days than it was when I got married, but will my girls be into that? There's no way of knowing. They're going to have their own tastes and want their own lovingly, excitedly sought out dresses, whether they're brand new or not.
|Wedding day, February 14, 1997|
I decided to search online for ideas of what to do with used wedding dresses. I came across a lot of crafy ideas, but I'm totally not crafty and so that wasn't really an option either. Then I discovered Angel Dresses.
All across North America, there are gifted seamstresses who deconstruct donated wedding and other formal dresses to create tiny gowns for babies who never get to go home with their parents after birth. Dresses are given to hospitals and then passed along free of charge to grieving parents so they have one less thing to think about when they lose their precious little ones.
Despite living quite a distance from any major center, there happen to be three designated "collectors" in my area, as well as an Angel seamstress. So after consulting The Man and getting his approval for the idea, I contacted her through my province's Angel Dress Facebook page, and arrangements were made to bring her my dress. I made the hand-off Friday afternoon.
I thought it would be hard to let go of something that had cost so much money and had seemed so terribly important at one time... but it really wasn't. Especially knowing how it will be used. I've been promised pictures will be posted of the tiny gowns created from my dress and I look forward to seeing them.
I like that I have freed up a little more closet space in my home. But I love that the dress I spent weeks searching for and negotiating for and paying for, and then proudly wearing to say my vows, will be used once more ~ to carefully, lovingly dress a few precious little angels one last time as their parents and families say goodbye.