After writing the post I did on Mother's Day, I decided I need help. I want to be a mother like my mom was, but I don't really know where to start.
I seriously browsed the Internet for "Homemaking Lessons" and "Guides to Joyful HomeKeeping," etc.! There's TONS of information out there, but very few step-by-step guides to becoming a joyful Keeper of the Home.
I guess that's partly because you really can't start with just one thing. There's cooking, cleaning, organizing, and parenting, and a horde of other aspects to the responsibility of "homemaking/keeping" that all have to be taken care of at the same time. Multi-tasking is the name of the game!
So I decided to rather make some goals for myself. They will seem very basic and elementary to some of you, but maybe there are some of you who've also felt convicted at times that you're really not the mother God would have you be. I hope you'll find encouragement in knowing you're not alone and that it's really never too late to decide to change. Maybe we can even help each other along the way!
These are my goals for this summer:
1. Find a daily devotional guide for young kids and start having devotions either at breakfast or at afternoon tea time.
I'd prefer free and online so that I can print out, modify, etc., but now that I think of it, that's a LOT of paper over the course of a year ~ I might have to break down and just buy a book! I found this online daily devotional, but I'd really like one that had some kind of activity or object lesson each day. Suggestions are welcome!
2. Leave the computer off until my daily "to do" list has been completely done.
A couple of weeks ago, my sister-in-law's Facebook status said something to the effect that she would need to start working harder at getting everything done in the mornings so that she'd be able to spend her afternoons outside, now that the weather was getting nicer. (Of course, the weather up around these parts hasn't been CONSISTENTLY nice yet ~ we had snow again last Friday and Saturday and there's PLENTY more in the long-range forecast! ~ so I can put it off a little longer, right?!)
I've thought about it a lot since reading that and I've decided to make it a goal. Virtually every single day, I fritter away several hours here at the computer first thing in the morning, while the girls watch TV, and then in the afternoon, when they're finally sick and tired of sitting around and they ask me to do something with them, I can't because "mommy has too much work to do."
Of course, if mommy would've gotten off her lazy butt and done her work in the morning, she'd have PLENTY of time!!
I've drawn up numerous "daily schedules" for myself over the last few years (all pretty and colour-coded and everything!), but never actually stuck to them. It's always just been wishful thinking. I think part of the problem is they haven't been flexible. I'm not very good at flexible. I need improvement in that area. Kids are random and unpredictable. The weather is random and unpredictable.
I need to learn to accomodate and work around both!
I want my mornings to be about business, looking after my home and raising adults; my afternoons about enjoying life with my girls, savouring their childhood; and my evenings about gratefully remembering and cleaning up the spoils of a full, rewarding day ~ preparing my home and my heart for the adventures of tomorrow.
And, if necessary, to be able to do all these things in the opposite order!!
That sounds very ideal, and I know there will be many days when that is NOT AT ALL(!) how I'm going to view my day, but if that's what I'm aiming towards and asking God to keep reminding me of my goals, I think someday ~ before my girls are all grown up and moved away ~ I'll get there.

For their sakes and mine, I really hope so.