>> Monday, June 25, 2007
After reading my cousin Tammy's blog, I decided to join her and numerous other women in the 30-day Honour Your Husband Challenge. I think The Bushman is an awesome husband and father and I've often wondered how I could make it obvious to him that I think so. Not that I have any more brilliant ideas now than I did all the times I thought about it, but now that I'm putting this in writing for anyone to read, I'm hoping it'll help me keep it in the foreground of my mind this upcoming month.
My goals for the next 30 days are to:
- Make at least TWO conscientiously spontaneous decisions to do something he'd like to do, like invite friends over for supper last-minute, or pack up and head to the lake for the afternoon and supper -- without weeks of advance planning! Bushman is a very spontaneous person and I'm JUST NOT, which I know is a source of frustration for him. Two things isn't a lot, I know, but it's two things in a month that wouldn't likely happen AT ALL otherwise -- at least not without a bit of friction.
- Spend at least one evening a week actually doing something together -- not just watching TV. We've often said that after the girls are in bed, we should go outside and play horseshoes or Bocce or drink hot chocolate while enjoying a cozy fire or even work in the garden together, but somehow those things just never happen.
- Match his efforts at not being lazy anymore. Since coming back from his 2-month job up north, Bushman's been a different person. ("NEW Bushman," I like to call him!) Where he used to come home, eat supper, and plunk himself down in front of the TV, now he more often than not, goes back outside with the girls, or after they're in bed, mows lawn or putters around the yard -- he even hoes my garden to keep busy!! I, on the other hand, am incredibly lazy, and I'd like there to be a "New ValleyGirl," too. "New Bushman" is showing "OLD ValleyGirl" up way too often and I feel nowadays that he must think I'm not really doing my share of the work around here anymore (and quite likely, rightly so), so my plan is to make sure that I know I have done my share on any given day, that I have done all I can to be a good homemaker, and that we can both feel good about relaxing and enjoying our accomplishments together after we've worked hard.
- Pray for him every day -- and not just that he'll drive and come home safely -- and let him know that I'm praying for him.
- Cook his favourite meals more often.This one I'm stealing from Pam's list of ideas, but our husbands have much the same ideas regarding food. She and I like to try new things, Bushman and Con would like to have some of the good ones on a regular basis. So I'm going to make sure we have an 'old favourite' at least twice a week for the next 4 weeks.
Some of these goals will require an awful lot of will-power on my behalf because they involve attempting to change my personality and/or bad habits. I'm notoriously low on motivation and determination, so this will definitely challenge me in more ways than one.